What Being a Natural Really Says about You

I have been studying naturals for a while now…almost 3 years to be exact. And I’ve discovered amazing things along the way. There are many things I can say about naturals:

*they are sexy
*they are exotic
*they eat healthy
*they are earthy
*they are desired

But there is one thing I’ve noticed that is a bit deeper than these things. Something I see , that every natural, especially female naturals, have. Young or older, Mixed or black, foreign or local, I realized that every natural has….

ACCEPTED HERSELF

That’s right! In a society, where for sooooo long, the straight haired, no fuss, no problem, long or short hair was lusted after, the natural woman or man has accepted his or her self. In the past few years, it has become more popular, yet still wildly exotic to be a natural, but this is only veeeery recent. Us curly, wavy, kinky, zigzaggy girls have had to endure being the outcast for decades! We had to endure the stares, the mockery, the disbelief, the ‘why can you look like (fillintheblank)’ statements. Or was that just my experience?

You’ve really got to be internally strong in order to not allow your environment to influence adverse thoughts about yourself. It took a lot of spiritual work for me to be strengthened in who God made me.

Yet then and now, every natural whom has decided to leave the relaxer, the conk, the texturizer, the chemicals, and the hotcomb alone, is making so many statements to herself (or himself) and to the world:

I Accept Me, I Love Me, I Am Me, freely

I Don’t Have to Look Like What Everyone Else Praises

I Can Also be Creative With My Styles and Still Amaze You

Newsflash for all those taking notice and that care: this is not a trend. This natural haircare and hairdo has changed, no exploded, the direction of the hair product industry. New businesses and old ones have sprouted up natural hair care lines and are ferociously marketing them with, guess who? Us naturals. Photographers and designers are frantically searching for natural models. Some of the most popular YouTubers are natural chics. We are writing a new history. It’s a movement toward multi-cultures accepting themselves intensely in the face of the passing ‘straight’ standard.

And…we naturals are only going to get bigger.

Bigger in hair size.

Bigger in numbers.

And bigger in ideas of where to take are natural hair next.

It’s our turn to be desired for just being…..naturally us.

Then vs Now..

I use to really hate my look…  beach shot because I was stuck in a wrong thinking. Funny how the inner always reflects what you and others see on the outside. I felt I really couldn’t do anything about it and that pretty girls were born pretty. This was a time before YouTube, Pinterest, and Instagram. Now it has become so popular to alter your look, almost daily, due to the flood of reality shows, entrepreneurial-ism, and a new philosophy of creating the life you want.

Over many milestones of some desired and some undesired change, a family member challenged what I thought of my look, especially my hair. I was strongly encouraged to let go of the relaxer (a staple in my community’s household back then) and embrace consistent care. She invested money, time, and research on the concern of my hair. It didn’t happen overnight, but I began to examine how I could best wear and care for my hair.

After dating a young gentlemen who loved seeing me natural in a picture one night, (it was after I washed my hair and let it air dry), I decided to try being natural. I started off being natural 25% of the time. Then I met another man and he liked that look too, so soon I became 50% natural. After dating him, I decided I wanted to explore more of my natural look and was next 75% natural. A couple of years later and I don’t even remember the last time I got a blow out or a press n curl. I’ve been natural for 100% of the time and I love it! Those two men really helped to push me to fully embrace my natural look. IMG405